What if it wasn’t a problem?

That’s what I’ve been asking myself a whole bunch this past month. It’s a simple question I’ve been toting along in the spiritual back pocket of my Jordache jeans like we used to have those combs in the 80s. I can’t believe what a difference it has made for me.

Here, I’ll show you what I mean.

Me passing a reflection of myself on my way to the gym: “I can’t believe I work out this often and I still have days when I cringe at my own reflection.”
Pocket: “What if it wasn’t a problem?”
Me: “Oh. I can just be grateful that my body works. That I am loved. That I just got to move my body and feel exhilarated. Maybe how I look isn’t today’s big PROBLEM.”

Or how about this:

Me at the end of a long day of not feeling productive: “I sat at this desk for 8 hours, didn’t finish my article, left emails on my desktop, didn’t make soup, and now it’s far too blustery to go running.”
Pocket: “What if it wasn’t a problem?”
Me: “Holy crap. What if productivity wasn’t the yardstick I chose to judge myself with today. What if I coached five clients really well, I took some time to pet the dog, and I read a ton of articles that inform my life? What if I let that be enough today?”
Pocket: “What if you are enough?”
Me: “Now you’re testing me, Pocket.”
Pocket: “Let’s talk again tomorrow.”

It’s just a tiny question that can get us out of a malaise or a self-imposed despair that we are not required to carry. You can turn around in your own prison cell and just walk right the hell out. Try it. You got nothing to lose but some sorrow.

 

6 comments

  1. Bevin says:

    This is incredibly great, succinct advice! Thank you Sara Seinberg!

  2. Kyle Eberly says:

    love this

  3. andy schine says:

    word! tell it, coach! i’ll be having some pocket conversations tomorrow at my swim meet, for certain. xo

  4. Hi Sara!

    I loved reading this post, thank you! Like all great ideas, it’s simple but powerful. I’ve already asked myself this question a few times this week and it’s been so helpful.

    I included it in my “Best of October” round-up, which is a collection of awesome posts and articles offering valuable perspectives on our relationship with ourselves.

    Thanks again for sharing :)

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